I tend to do a lot of observing, and I notice things, which I decided I feel like writing down, maybe someone might find it useful in some way. So, to start with I figure I might as well start with the toughest thing, and that is equality. It is my belief that very few people want equality, but actually want supremacy.
Both men and women suffer from some of the same problems, but some women seem to be misdirecting their difficulties and blaming gender inequality instead of recognizing the real problem. I do not intend to bash on feminists, pride in your gender and race are important, I am only pointing out where extreme levels of it could be harming you in the workplace.
The reason I bring it up is because I hear things, as I said. Things that contradict each other, for example, a hard core feminist would argue that she makes 70 cents on the dollar what a man does for the same job. This same feminist will then complain about some stupid girl who dresses inappropriately but earns double her wages despite her incompetence.
Just as well, you might see a man working a job, frustrated that he pours all his time and energy into project after project to no avail yet that kiss-up who does nothing truly productive gets every raise and every promotion that becomes available.
These ARE NOT mutually exclusive. The view of the opposite gender as the enemy blinds many extreme feminists to the real problem; themselves. What the ‘self respecting’ office woman sees as the ‘office slut’ is exactly what the male sees in the office kiss-up. Both are doing exactly the same thing for the same result.
I’m going to break this down into three main categories. Getting a job; as well as promotions rely on mainly three things. Your expectations, their expectations, and your charisma.
The first, your expectations. On your application you will notice there is almost always a spot to write down what you want to be paid. This is their way to gauge how much you think you are worth. If you believe the 70 cents on the dollar statistic, odds are you will write down a smaller amount than you are worth in order to compensate for what you expect them to want.
Employers are in the business of making money, if they can get away with paying you less, they will.
The second is your employer’s expectations. They will try to judge you as to how much you are worth, how little they think you will accept, and if you would be a good addition to their team. Everything you are worth has to be expressed to them or they will underestimate your value.
This ties directly into the last item; your charisma. This is also where many extreme feminists shoot themselves in the foot. With a 50 cal. Much like many other things; this can also be divided into three things (anybody else ever notice how many things can be divided into three?) Your physical appearance, your posture, and your speech.
An extreme feminist will tend toward practically cross dressing, and attempt to look as un-sexy as humanly possible, they also tend to have the predisposition that the interviewer will assume they fall into the stereotype they are ‘fighting’ and tend towards a less friendly posture. If you fail out of 2/3rds of your charisma straight off, and you aren’t a smooth talker you aren’t going to do well at expressing how badly the company needs you, this fails you on two of the most important parts of the three I mentioned; if you had low expectations to begin with you pretty much fail on all counts.
If you reverse it that ‘stupid girl’ and the ‘kiss-up’ have good charisma and know how to use it; they make the employer think they are invaluable and are 2/3rds of the way to success without ever having to do any work at all. As long as they don’t screw up too badly, and they keep themselves at the front of the superior’s minds, they will end up with all the promotions while you end up with all the work.
I’m fairly sure anyone reading this can connect the dots on what needs to be done here; and just like I said at the beginning the same solution applies to the equivalent problem for both men and women. Be charismatic, wear a smile and be friendly. Learn how to hold small talk, say what people want to hear while still getting your own point across if possible. Try to get on, and stay on your boss’s good side.
The true enemy is not equality or the lack of equality. Rather, it is your own perceptions and reluctance to do what works out of your own pride that causes you to be unable to advance. Nobody likes the kiss up, nobody likes the girl who flirts with every supervisor who has a say in promotions. You don’t HAVE to be them. What you have to do is your job, WHILE making an effort to make sure the bosses know your name, and like you.